Last week we talked about taking the time to write, articulate, and get uber specific about values that are important to you. Whether you had a lengthy list or a brief few, I hope the exercise in "core values" was a good interruption to your weekly norm.
If you didn't take the time, then I encourage you to do so soon. The early bird gets the worm right? And in this case, the early bird gets to move closer and closer tokicking ass at setting (and keeping) those boundarieswe've been talking about.
To review: Your core values are strong attributes (adjectives) that make-up both who you positively consider yourself to be and who you desire to be. Core values show you what you stand for and what you do not tolerate; this protects your SPIRIT; your unique essence. If we could bottle you, these would be the ingredients listed on the label.
Your list should light you up.
Your list should wet your appetite for a fueled&fulfilled (can I trade mark this slogan? sounds like a tag-line for an energy drank) life.
Your list should be ALL SUBSTANCE and ZERO FLUFF.
This Week: Actively use your list of Core Values to guide your decisions.
Spend time putting your social calendar, a request from work, how you're going to spend your down-time, whether you want breakfast for breakfast or breakfast for dinner...ALL OF IT through the filter of your values.
ex: If I value flexibility then I'm going to leave room in a vacation schedule for spontaneity versus having every moment strictly planned. If I value deep connections then I won't get together with superficial (former) friends; I'll spend my time otherwise.
*What are my choices?
CORE VALUE FILTER
*Does it align with a specific value or set of values? If it doesn't, why am I struggling to say no?
*The "best option" will start to present itself & your decision will be clearer
The better you get at using your core values to filter your choices, you will gain confidence and conviction in your decisions. You will learn how to comfortably say no to opportunities that do not make sense for you and stop apologizing for it.
PLUS! You'll start to:
- shed feelings of guilt
- lessen anxiety around being a "good" or "bad" decision-maker
- gain control of how you spend your time
- understand your uniqueness
- care about doing things to lift your spirit versus out of obligation
I'm here if you want to share your list of values, share in your successes & struggles, and sharpen your decisions.